So before we dive into this, let me introduce myself. I’m Samantha Rose, I’m an elopement & intimate wedding photographer that’s based in Phoenix, Arizona. The reason I’m writing this is to help answer any questions people may have about what elopements are, how elopements work, & basically why they’re becoming more popular. For me, I’m all about helping create a day that’s special for you & your partner. Whether that’s going on an adventurous hike & saying your vows at the top of a mountain or having a small ceremony where you got engaged - you deserve to have your dream day exactly how you want. Let’s create a day that’s unique to the two of you & all about celebrating your love.
What to know about elopements
Arizona Elopement Photographer
What is eloping?
Just to clear things up right at the beginning - no, you do not have to go to Vegas & get married by someone dressed up as Elvis. The idea of eloping has changed A LOT in just the last few years. When you Google the definition of “eloping” it says: “run away secretly in order to get married, especially without parental consent.” Again, this is NOT what eloping is anymore. I don’t think there is one exact definition of eloping, but to me - eloping is when you & your partner make the decision to have a wedding completely centered around the two of you. You’re not concentrating on putting on a party for other people or feeling like you have to include typical traditions. It’s a day focused around expressing your love (& most the time includes an epic adventure).
Are elopements just a trend?
Do I think elopements are becoming more popular? Absolutely. Do I think they are trendy? Absolutely. Do I think they’re going to stick around? Absolutely.
Elopements are on the rise, there’s no doubt about it. I do not think they are a trend that’s going to come & go though. Which makes me so happy. I LOVE that more couples are making the decision to have a day just about them. If a big, traditional wedding just doesn’t feel right to you - you’ve probably already started looking at the alternatives. I think it’s taken awhile for more people to start eloping because it’s felt a little taboo for so long. Couples have different reasons for eloping - whether it’s because of your relationship with your family or you just love the outdoors & want to center your day around that. When you’re surrounded by traditional weddings for so long & all the traditions that they entail - it can make you feel like that’s what you have to do. I’m here to tell you though that you can do whatever you want for your wedding.
Do you tell people that you’re eloping?
The easiest way to answer this is that you can tell people that you’re eloping. If you want to. By no means do you have to tell anyone, but the “new norm” is that elopements aren’t something you run away & do & don’t tell people about. It’s still your wedding day - you’re just choosing to make it a celebration centered completely around the two of you.
If you think it will be easier for you & your partner to tell the people in your life afterwards that you decided to elope, then that’s probably the right decision for you two! The hard truth is that, not everyone may understand why you don’t want a traditional wedding. You may feel pressure from certain people in your life to not elope or to still try to do things in a way that isn’t true to you. By eloping, you may feel like you’re making a selfish decision, but that’s okay! You’re allowed to be selfish - it’s your wedding!
If you do want to tell people beforehand - have a plan for how to tell them if you think they may want you to go a more traditional route. Talk to your friends & family & explain why having an elopement means so much.
Can you include your family/close friends in your elopement?
Absolutely! You’ll probably find a lot of photographers referring to this as an “intimate wedding” because typically now elopements are referring to when it’s just the couple, the officiant, & photographer (& possibly videographer). No matter what you call it though, yes, you can include others.
Whether it’s a destination location or somewhere close to home - by having others there, it may change or affect how you go about your elopement day. You may want to say your vows on top of a mountain, but that may be unrealistic to have family members hike up there with you. Your loved ones can be waiting down at the bottom for you to celebrate once you’ve made it ‘official’ or maybe you want to say your vows at a simpler location with others around you & then head up by yourselves after for photos. Or maybe you want to go the route of having the whole day be just the two of you & then celebrating with all your friends & family at a small reception or dinner later on.
You have a lot of options. And a lot of things may factor in to what you decide to do. This is where I can help you figure out a realistic timeline for the day, choosing locations, & what may be the best option for your day.
Is an elopement spur of the moment? Or can/do you plan it out?
This goes back to how elopements have changed a lot. Sometimes, elopements may still be spur of the moment. Plans change & people decide last minute that they don’t want to have a traditional wedding so in less than a month they plan an elopement.
I’d say this isn’t the typical thing to do anymore though. Just like a normal wedding - elopements take planning! You have to choose your attire, florals, photographer, videographer, hair & makeup artist & THE LOCATION! The best part about all of this is though - these are all decisions just focused around the two of you. You’re not figuring out plans for pleasing other people, which already makes the planing process a lot less stressful.
If you ask me though, if you know that you want to elope - don’t wait to plan it. You want to find vendors that feel right for your elopement day & most the time, you still will have to book things pretty far in advance (for photographers, it’s most typically a year). And when you factor in traveling - it’s still a lot to plan. I’m here to help you figure out all the details though.
Can I still include traditional things in my elopement?
Yes, absolutely! In case you haven’t picked up on this yet, you can do & include whatever you want.
Want to wait & see each other until you say your vows? You can!
Want to do a first look beforehand? You can!
Want to get ready together? You can!
Want to include something old, something new, something borrowed, & something blue? You can!
Want to write letters to each other & read them beforehand? You can!
You can include anything & everything or nothing at all. I’m here to help you plan it all & create your dream day, exactly how you imagine it.
*Bonus: Do you still go on a honeymoon if you elope?
I’d say this depends on where you decide to elope. If you’re choosing to stay in your home state for your elopement & just travel a few hours away, you’re probably still going to want to go somewhere for your honeymoon! If you’re traveling out of state or even out of the country though - the trip typically will be your honeymoon. You can plan your elopement at the beginning of the trip that way you can celebrate the rest of the time & use it as your honeymoon.
So… Should you elope?
If you ask me - yes. Without a doubt, I think you should elope. To me, eloping is one of the most romantic & intimate ways to begin your marriage. You’re focusing on just the two of you & your love & all the things that mean the most to your relationship.
This isn’t about what I think though - this is about what you want. Did you read this post & picture you & your partner saying your vows in a beautiful destination? Did the idea of not throwing a party for other people, but planning a day centered around exactly what you want excite you? Are you already looking up ‘best places to elope’? If you said yes to any of these - I think that should answer that eloping is probably right for you.
I want to help all the lovers & dreamers out there that want to take the not-so-typical route for their wedding day & plan an adventure solely around their love. For some, this may be a tough decision, but I’m here to help & plan all the details. If you have any questions about eloping or just want to chat - send me an email.
Samantha Rose Photography is a Phoenix, Arizona based elopement & intimate wedding photographer. She’s passionate about helping couples plan their dream adventure wedding focused around their love. When she’s not photographing couples she can be found hiking, planning her next trip, or binge watching Criminal Minds.